'Love' today is such a common word in the phraseologies of today, with expressions like 'Ooh! I so lovvee this song/him/the food/the joint...' and ' Love you gal, thanks a ton!'...also, 'Hello/ Take care, luv!' being spouted at the drop of a hat! And if one is at a social do, all the more reason to have 'luhhhvv' being transferred to you on a honey-laden golden plate. It makes me wonder, do they really care so much or is this really love!?
The word 'love' is very sacred to me. And the name of my blog not withstanding, I choose to use it sparingly and definitely not for all and sundry! That's primarily because I feel that when I express love for/to some one/thing, I am duty bound and morally obliged to mean it. Also being acutely aware of the connotations, implications and responsibility the word has, I'd like to believe that since I said it, I am truly- from the depths of my heart- convinced that I do so... a conviction that holds me in good stead through all the trying times and doubting minds around...
That's why I ensure that when I tell someone 'I love you' (be it family, friend or otherwise), I actually feel the words come from my heart. And I am completely confident about what I feel when I say I do. This attempt to be honest and true to myself has led me to sign most of my mails/letters/cards with either 'warm regards', 'cheers!', 'take care!' and so on...emphasising that I do care, but not necessarily love them. This also helps me analyse my feelings and have the clarity of thought of love as compared to feeling/caring for/being sympathetic to someone and more.
And so, from saying 'I love to travel/watch movies/to read/to dance...' and 'I love design/photography/good food....' etc; I have learned to say, 'I enjoy travelling' or 'I'm passionate about design' ... expressing myself completely but yet not brandishing the word 'love'.
It may sound stupid, self-centred or even weird, but I know in the bargain I am being completely true to myself and the person I expressed love for. It's not a superfluous expression of society's norms but a revealation of my heart and soul. Something that is real and set in stone.
Love, for me, is being true to my soul. And for eternity.
The word 'love' is very sacred to me. And the name of my blog not withstanding, I choose to use it sparingly and definitely not for all and sundry! That's primarily because I feel that when I express love for/to some one/thing, I am duty bound and morally obliged to mean it. Also being acutely aware of the connotations, implications and responsibility the word has, I'd like to believe that since I said it, I am truly- from the depths of my heart- convinced that I do so... a conviction that holds me in good stead through all the trying times and doubting minds around...
That's why I ensure that when I tell someone 'I love you' (be it family, friend or otherwise), I actually feel the words come from my heart. And I am completely confident about what I feel when I say I do. This attempt to be honest and true to myself has led me to sign most of my mails/letters/cards with either 'warm regards', 'cheers!', 'take care!' and so on...emphasising that I do care, but not necessarily love them. This also helps me analyse my feelings and have the clarity of thought of love as compared to feeling/caring for/being sympathetic to someone and more.
And so, from saying 'I love to travel/watch movies/to read/to dance...' and 'I love design/photography/good food....' etc; I have learned to say, 'I enjoy travelling' or 'I'm passionate about design' ... expressing myself completely but yet not brandishing the word 'love'.
It may sound stupid, self-centred or even weird, but I know in the bargain I am being completely true to myself and the person I expressed love for. It's not a superfluous expression of society's norms but a revealation of my heart and soul. Something that is real and set in stone.
Love, for me, is being true to my soul. And for eternity.
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10 comments:
Incontestably true.. ppl use it so damn often n make it sound so hollow..
:)
this is a marketing flaw actually. love is so at our doorsteps...on the road we walk on...
from times of india to archies gallery. come one. love is all for sale. its all ova the friggin place!
people don have time. so they start tellin themselves that this is what they love. movies..or music. they might actually like it. love is ... of course overrated. that too is a fault of the current commercialisation.
now if i say all that..i open doors to "POST COLONIALISM POST MODERNISM" n all thatshit. don wanna do that. what i wanna do iz say this, that this is a very thoughtful post!
:)
peace..!!
\m/
@MSP lolz.. probably you should consider writing bout lovey-dovey esp after I read your bashing ex.. :))
Love, is a confusing emotion. Sometimes though I think we give it more importance that it deserves. Love can happen for a moment or a lifetime, for me it's a beautiful feeling which makes you come alive.
i get you.
of course, i'm not the same way. i use my words too loosely sometimes. but hey! i get you.
love is a loaded statement.
am in a love-hate relationship with love itself.
And then there are some who are unable to say it even when they mean to...Abundance is definitely better than scarcity when it comes to declaring love..trust me..
* Φ - ... :)
* Manic- lol! I agree with V...he he.
* Menagerie- Hmmm...I guess. But for me love is not just a feeling,and even it comes for a moment,it has the power to last a lifetime... :)
* Rain- Thanks! (hugs)
* Harjee- Bechaare 'love' ko kyun hate kar raha hai? ;)
* White- hmm...you know, after reading your comment, I do tend to agree with you! :)
Its not stupid or weird at all.. i think it totally makes sense!
When it should be used isn't and when it is used often enough, becomes meaningless...
* perspective- precisely!:)
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