Do Words Hold Us Back?

I was having an interesting conversation with a friend (L) online on the Pink Floyd quotes I had used on the blog and was telling her about some of the nice quotes I had heard ... when she said, 'but words will always hold you back'... and 'understandingly' I could not comprehend (if you know what I mean) and we went back and forth about this. And I was trying to tell her that what use were words if they could not be spoken...
and she was like, "thats not what I'm saying- but words will hold you back....irrespective of them being said or unsaid." And I thought maybe its the memory of those words or the want of them might hold us back, and she said "no, much more than that...."
By now my mind was all curious,and sub-consciously I knew what she was saying, but for the loss of me, I just failed to 'know'... and insisted that words can never replace feelings maybe, but they do help articulate them... and there she went again...
L : "nope. I know we all love words, but words hold back." And I was thinking maybe she meant action speak louder than words... But at the same time I told her that there is a possibility that words hold back, but they also let you be... free at times.
L: "they dont... we think they do but they dont". And she said, "...actions...words....speech....why speak? As for the base thot... language itself is created for the very purpose of record..."

And I was thinking by now this is some vicious cycle - of thoughts and words... when she asked something basic...."ever loved in silence? Its far more intense. Ever wondered why?Ever felt for some1 and never had the chance to express it... its far more intense... ever wondered why?"

I did... wonder that is... and I also understood what she meant completely... at least my sub-conscious or heart did, while my mind kept trying to mentally decipher and solve the problem....and so said 'but hey, I dont only need to be loved, but to be told that I am loved..." quoting a famous person...
L : " language rests on a simple principle that fails us often... that my perception of a word is the same as yours... also it roots in experience.... it doesnt work..."

By now I was adamant with the fact that words dont hold us back, we do and blame it on words...and she was trying to say as long as they exist, words do hold back... and yes, by now you must be confused....so was I then... very confused....so thought maybe she meant that there is a diff language of love that needed no words...
L: "...nope. im saying languages hold back....why structure something so unstructured and beautiful. wat doesnt hold back? the heart and the heart knows no language.."
D: "language is a form of expression.... only a form. Expressions have diff forms...one of them being silence too. Feeling is an expression of the heart."
L: "but the purpose of language is not expression- its communication"
L: "feeling is not an expression. feeling is an action."
D: "its an action of the heart so wat has been 'acted' has been expressed-that expression need nt be understood or divulged or said aloud."
L: "it doesnt have to be even worded in our minds... let alone speaking it out or trying to 'communicate; it to feel it."
D: "im saying an action is an expression of sorts... even if its nt worded. When we feel, acceptance of that feeling is an expression."
L: "no, D. Action and expression is different but we r so used to validating its existence through expression we forget the two r distinct. Its one of those things that cant be seen from within the barriers of language.Words will never let words break. Its one of those things that come out from within. Primal instinct if ud like to call it that,but its why wording it and recording its experiences are so important? When that wont matter ull soar free.....when that wont matter is when u see that words hold back."

hmmm....and I've been thinking of this for the past few days.. and then stopped. Just like that. And I'm not sure if I'm 'wording' (pun intended) it right, but from within it was the feeling that overcame me that said it all... to feel. to be as is. to exist. And when you're experiencing the feeling of feeling, then nothing else matters- no words can express it. But its not just that....when you contain the feeling within yourself, that force is so strong and intense that it elevates you and you soar...just knowing you felt. I don't know if thats what she meant, but its what I deciphered for myself.....
But will play the devil's advocate here and say..."sometimes its better to word what you feel and let that intensity dissipate and be exhaled from the self, even if a little bit of it...there comes comfort with that too."